It’s a story told often enough that it’s familiar to everyone. You tell someone “I don’t want children,” and the reply is “You’ll change your mind.”

Well, some people really do not want children. It’s just not something they want for themselves. And that’s fine!

Christen Reighter gave an insightful TED Talk on the obstacles women face when they decide not to have children.

A topic that probably should be discussed more often, Reighter says she decided to get her tubes tied because she didn’t want to wake up one day and realize “I’d had a child I didn’t really want.”

Watch her speak below: